The Habit of Permission

The Ultimate Procrastination Buster

Hello! Taylor Here! Welcome to another episode of Creative Habits!

Today we’re looking at Permission because that’s a really BIG factor for many people wanting to create more regularly, or just Start to create. This is for Art Supply Collectors in particular, and people who’ve fallen off their creative path. Those people that love beautiful things, see potential in an object, really want to work on a specific or non-specific project – the person motivated enough to buy all the stuff and then put it away for when they “have time”. The housekeeping, the job, the others in the house, “life responsibilities” are always a higher priority, always ahead of the “frivolity” of making something. These people may be very tense and life may feel very challenging.

I was once That Person. Ironically, for all the “priorities” like housekeeping, I didn’t have an organized house and of course that just gave me Guilt…and Shame and I became more and more entrenched in denying myself permission to create. I was somewhat miserable. Now that I have a regular practice of sorts and have complete Permission to create, I feel significantly better and my house is cleaner – who’d have thunk it!

Studies have shown (search the subject) that being creative, having “Flow” time, and tending to one’s interests greatly enhances our lives, and by association, the lives of those around us. Play isn’t just for kids. Engaging in creative efforts builds overall life skills and teaches us to apply creativity and problem-solving to all the areas of our lives if we open ourselves up to it. Solid transferable skills – even improving our work performance.

Every workplace has That One Person that decorates the bejeebers out of their workspace – often to the chagrin of coworkers. That person is usually significantly happier – until the buzzkills throw all the shade their way. They gave themselves Permission to create a space that soothes their soul (they may also completely hate their job and this outlet keeps them showing up each day). The point here is that Permission to express ourselves isn’t something we get from the external world, it’s something we give ourselves – or allow ourselves to be given from the external world, be it a boss, parent, child, partner, friend, IG influencer, whatever. Time to take that back, and if doing that is too painful… I’m a pro, right? So by the power vested in me, I GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO USE UP ALLL YOUR ART AND CRAFT SUPPLIES! If, for no other reason, than to enable you to feel better in general.

Think about it, when we deny ourselves permission to create or use supplies (use that soap or burn that candle), as if they will never exist again after they’re transformed into something wonderful, and we physically feel it in our bodies. Our brain spews ickyness, and we believe it because it really is trying to protect us, and then we feel like crap – then we share the crap and it shows in every part of our lives. I challenge you to have a conversation with your brain. Stand up tall, perhaps hold an item of “shame or guilt” from your stash of cool stuff you want to use and say “Hey, brain, well bless your heart, I know you want to protect me from <<insert all the reasons here>>, but I bought or want to buy all these great things to make something wonderful and since I am actually the boss here, we’re going for it.” How does that feel in your body? Silly maybe? Great! That’s progress! Keep talking to your brain while standing tall and remembering the joy this item brought you when you bought it. At some point, usually sooner than you’d think, your brain obeys and there’s no more YUCK.

Schedule it!

If you have time to watch 1-5 hours of TV or internet media every night or scroll through social media, You Have TIME to make something and feed your heart and soul! It doesn’t have to be hours and hours, it can be 10 minutes – then you’ll be on a roll and get hooked. It doesn’t have to be “original” or Spectacular – a coloring page can do the trick! You know those cool markers you bought and buried in the junk drawer? In the same breath I have to say, Don’t neglect others or stay up too late – that causes other problems, feeds the brain’s “See, you’re selfish”, and then guilt – but decide to regularly, without fail, as if it were a real appointment of importance, set a time to create and play. You Have My Permission.

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